Clients' Comments
The following are excerpts from letters that I
have received from clients over the years. I would like everyone
to know how much these comments mean to me.
1996
“Words can not express my deep and sincere appreciation
for all of your hard work and effort in helping (my husband and
I) settle and resolve our divorce problems. You will always have
a place in my heart for allowing (my husband and I) to, not only
come up with a fair agreement, but, more importantly, you made us
realize that eventhough we are no longer together as husband and
wife, we will always have a committed relationship as mom and dad.
Somehow, when our attorneys were bashing each other and sending
those mean and nasty letters, we lost sight of this. You brought
us back to reality. Your compassionate demeanor combined with keeping
us focused on the issues that needed to be resolved, allowed us
both to proceed through the process with our dignity intact. Never
again will I ever see a lawyer as long as you’re around. Thank
you very much for everything.”
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2001
“I know you’ve heard this a million times, but you
really are the best. Your ability to help us through this horrible
time in our lives is something that we will never forget. Your obvious
compassion and empathy for us is only surpassed by your ability
to somehow help us construct a very fair and equitable agreement.
No winners. No losers. I never though that it could be so pain free.”
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1999
“You know our history. You know how much money we wasted
with our lawyers. You know how skeptical we both were about mediation.
I never though it would work. But not only did it work…it
worked really well. Thank you. Thank you.”
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2003
“Man did you prove my lawyer WRONG. Everything that he
warned me about mediation was incorrect. The agreement (my wife)
and I made -with your help, of course- was reasonable and fair.
And that’s all we could have asked. Besides that, we saved
many thousands of dollars.
The best part of this experience is that we are better friends now
than we’ve been in years. It’s nice to have her as a
friend and still a part of my life…thanks to you.”
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2004
I don’t know how I would have gotten through this without
your help. However you did it, (my ex-wife) and I don’t hate
each other anymore. As a matter of fact, we probably get along better
now than we have in years. I can’t imagine how other couples
deal with the harshness and cruelty of our legal system. I know
we couldn’t leave it up to our attorneys anymore if we wanted
to preserve some basis of our relationship for our children. And
the financial aspects of our agreement were unbelievably creative
and you provided each of us with so many alternatives that our lawyers
hadn’t even considered. You allowed (us) to figure out an
agreement that gave us both what we wanted. This is not a very humorous
time….but, when I took your Agreement to my attorney for her
review, she was so shocked I thought that she was going to have
a coronary. Thank god she didn’t….eventhough she would
be getting what she deserved.”
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1998
“Thank you” just doesn’t seem adequate to
express my feelings at this time. Your thoughtfulness, consideration
and obvious talent brought this frightening experience to a reasonable
and fair conclusion. And you know how skeptical I was when we began.
I knew that (my husband) was smarter than I am…well, maybe
not smarter – but more street wise. The main reason I didn’t
want to try mediation was because it was his suggestion. And because
it was his idea, I knew in my heart that there must be a hidden
agenda that he had. I felt, for sure, that he was going to try to
take advantage of me. Eventhough you assured me that this would
not occur, I didn’t fully believe you. I now admit that I
was wrong. And, in an ironic sort of way, I’m glad I was.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad that I’m not married
to him anymore. But at least we’ve been able to maintain some
sort of positive relationship so that we will be able to bring up
(our children) together without have to put up with all the (expletive)
throughout the last couple of years that we were together. I know
that if we had gone to court – like my lawyer wanted –
we would have become permanent enemies. And thanks to you, that
didn’t happen. Lastly, however you did it, I think I got a
pretty good deal. Probably much better than I would have gotten
in court.”
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2004
“…you were unbelievably terrific. Without putting
any pressure on us, your natural style made us feel at ease and
welcomed. My husband and I were even able to act like adults during
the sessions. And when you got us to focus on what’s really
important – our kids – we were able to put aside our
differences and act responsibly and in our children’s best
interests. Also, and I don’t know how it happened, (my husband)
actually showed some real compassion and understanding towards me
about my (financial concerns). He’s happy. I’m happy.
My kids are doing great. Keep up the hard work. It’s only
a matter of time until you put divorce attorneys out of business.”
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2003
“Before we began working with you, the thought of mediation
was so scary to me. I thought I needed a lawyer to protect me, my
rights and my dignity. I’m glad I was wrong. You were phenomenal.
I think that the success of the mediation process was in part due
to the fact that neither (my husband) nor I felt threatened by what
you were doing. You dealt with facts, acknowledged our feelings
and provided us with many reasonable alternatives. This allowed
both of us to feel that our interests and needs were being considered.
You inspired us to continue to look for alternatives and compromises
that were acceptable to both of us. I am so relieved that we avoided
a battle in court. I have no doubt that that would have been a financial
disaster for us, and worse, would have resulted in years of anger,
resentment and pain for my children and myself.”
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2000
“I just wanted to thank you again for the invaluable help
you provided to (my husband and me). Eventhough we really screwed
up our marriage, we did manage to handle our divorce – with
your help – in a way that we can be proud of. There was sensibility
and courtesy throughout the mediation process and everything we
did was directed toward a peaceful and fair settlement. I came through
this process feeling better about myself and about my husband than
when we began. I never would have thought it possible. You will
forever be remembered in our hearts for helping us through this
incredibly difficult time in our lives – today, tomorrow,
and for all of the tomorrows that we shall live.”
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